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When it comes to writing personal posts here on my blog I really do like to try and capture the ordinary moments, I tend to think that it's the ordinary moments in life that are sometimes the very best, even if we don't realise it until afterwards when we reflect back on what are our good memories. 

But for my family, last night wasn't very ordinary. My Husband Adam collapsed in our bathroom whilst I laid in bed asleep. He'd been experiencing pains in his chest since Sunday afternoon. I don't know what woke me up, I don't remember if he shouted for me, or if I heard the bang or if it was instinct, but finding the person I love lying on the floor going in and out of consciousness was probably the worst moment of my life. In the few seconds and his moments of consciousness, he was laying on the floor with his arms to his chest near to his heart telling me that couldn't breathe. I'd never been so scared in my entire life as I was then and in the minutes after, even phoning for the ambulance is now just a blur. Thankfully further tests at the hospital indicated that we had nothing more serious to worry about than what is most likely a torn chest muscle and some swelling around his lung. His Mum, Dad and I bought Adam home from the hospital in the early hours of the morning and I am now making sure that he is taking it easy whilst his chest hopefully begins to heal.

I struggled to sleep when we got home from the hospital, my mind kept flashing back to seeing him laying there on the floor not responding to me shouting nor at me shaking him. I kept thinking about how though I know I had acted quickly, how much I had been panicking inside. I kept thinking about what that had been running through my mind when I found him and thinking about what I thought I was seeing scared me. I'm never blasé about how much Adam means to me, I try to never take him or us for granted and I really do count my blessings. I worry about losing him far often than is probably healthy to, but doing so reminds me how precious life is and why we should try to make everyday count. Sometimes that's easier said than done, being so close and so similar, as well as human, means that we of course do clash from time to time, but never does a day pass that I don't think about how in love with him I am.

I like to try and take the positives from these sorts of unpleasant events and of course the positive here is that he is alive and mostly well with nothing else too serious going on. It's times like last night that really do put things into perspective though and in terms of my fear, my panic and my upset, they ultimately serve as a firm reminder about just how precious life is and the ones we love in it are. 






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  1. Oh gosh Alex, how scary this must have been for you! I am so glad Adam is OK albeit sore. Hope he recovers very quickly. x

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    1. Thanks Laura, that means a lot. It was an awful experience. But we are all just so grateful that it wasn't anything worse.xx

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  2. how scary! so glad he is OK, you are so right we should be thankful of every moment with the ones we love xx

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    1. Thank you Fritha. I try to live by that everyday and of course it's not always easy to be calm, collected and ultimately super human every single day, but I really do think that things like this help us to see what really matters. xx

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  3. Oh my goodness, that must have been so scary. So glad it wasn't anything serious xx

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    1. Thank you Jess, it was, but we are so grateful that it doesn't appear to be anything worse. xx

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  4. Oh my love, that must have been terrifying for you both, I am so glad it wasn't anything too serious. Things like this really do give you a sense of perspective. Big love to you all xx

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    1. Thank you so much Kate, they certainly do. x

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  5. SO glad to hear he is ok! Ive been trying to write a post similar to this as our family are going through a very hard time with health issues and it just started to make me think about life differently recently - its far to short! xx

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    1. Thanks Shaz. And I am so sorry to hear that, please feel free to message me if you ever wanted someone extra to talk to. I hope things start to look up for and the family xx

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  6. Gosh Alex that's so scary!! How awful for you both! I hope Adams on the mend now xx

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    1. Thanks Harriet, it was, but we're so glad it's nothing more serious x

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  7. Oh my goodness these moments are what really test us in life. Really hoping for a speedy recovery to Adam and hope that your ok too!! Your right that it puts things into perspective. Xxx

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  8. Oh my goodness, that must have been so scary for you all. Super glad he's ok. Hugs xxx

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  9. I can't begin to imagine how terrifying that must have been for you. I hope Adam has a speedy recovery and I'm glad your all ok. xxx

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    1. Thank you Stephanie. It was horrible, but we're just grateful it was nothing worse. xx

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  10. I'm so glad Adams okay lovely, Pete had the exact same thing a while back, I thought he was having a heart attack and could not stop counting my blessings when they said it was muscular.

    Sending lots of love to you all, rest up and have some down time ❤️

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    1. Ah it's so scary isn't it? I just went into shock. I feel the same, so thankful it was nothing worse. Thanks lovely x

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  11. Oh my that must have been awful!! So glad he is ok and taking it easy. Xxx

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  12. Gosh Alex, how incredibly scary for you, and Adam too no doubt. Make sure he rests up and that you rest too, it is stressful going through something like that and you need time to process it. I'm glad he's okay. x

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    1. Thanks Lucy. It was horrible and very stressful but we're just relieved it was nothing worse. x

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  13. Oh gosh! I cannot imagine how scary that must have been. I'm glad he is on the mend xx

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  14. Crikey Alex. What a scary experience. So relieved to hear that Adam is ok. Hugs to you all. x

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  15. Oh Alex how scary! I hope he's feeling much better and you all get some much needed rest and calm :( x

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  16. Oh my goodness how scary! So SO glad he is ok and recovering. Huge hugs xx

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    1. It was very scary, so glad it was nothing worse. thank you x

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  17. Aww Alex what a scary experience for you all! Glad to hear it is nothing serious and Adam is OK. Sending lots of hugs! x

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  18. Oh Alex. I am so fond of you as a friend. So whenever you are going through something tough I want to grab you and hug you and help in some way. I'm so sorry you had to witness that. But all I think is how truly lucky Adam is to have such an instinctive and loving wife who was there for him. And how lucky you both are to have each other. So glad everything is okay. xx

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    1. Oh Charlotte :') Thank you so much lovely. xx

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  19. Oh my goodness, that must have been so scary. I am so glad he is ok. These scary moments definitely serve as a reminder of what is important. Hope you are ok Alex xx

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  20. That sounds terrible, but glad that all is well. We do have to take care of ourselves and our families as you never know what's round the corner x

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  21. That sounds really scary. Glad that all is well and that you're all taking it easy. It does make you realise how fortunate we all are to have families and make sure that we look after ourselves and them x

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  22. Oh how awful! I am so glad he's ok. I think in these situations we just go into autopilot. Sending love x

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  23. Oh my goodness. I am just glad he is ok. Like you say it's moments like these that just put everything into perspective. Hope you and the family are ok hun and Adam makes a full recovery. :)

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  24. Oh my goodness Alex, this must have been terrifying. Glad to hear Adam is OK. You are so right, sometimes things like this make us realise how lucky we are xx

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  25. Oh no! How scary :( Glad it wasn't anything too serious but still must have been horrible too see and for him too! Hope he is feeling better now. And hope both of you are ok x

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  26. Oh how scary :( I'll never forget the night my Dad collapsed in the bathroom in the middle of the night, I thought he was going to die. It turned out to be nothing but in those moments it is just utter terror and shock combined. The worst feeling in the world :( You poor thing, it was probably so much more frightening for you than it even was for Adam. I'm so glad it wasn't anything serious and wish him a speedy recovery, and you from the shock of it! xxxx

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    1. Thank you so much Hayley. That must have been absolutely awful for you. xx

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  27. Sending you both lots of love. A scary thing to happen, but you were there. Wishing Adam a speedy recovery x

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  28. Oh my God Alex. What a fright. I would be the same as you. I'm always scared something could happen to my fiance because he has epilepsy but never had any seizures since the age of 14. Fingers crossed it stays that way. Get well soon Adam. Xx

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    1. Thank you and fingers crossed for you both that it does stay that way. xx

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  29. Oh my goodness how horribly scary. I hope you've all had some time to just relax and recover from the shock as well as poor Adam's muscle tears. It is a reminder that we should never take each other for granted but I suspect one that you really could have done without!!

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    1. Thank you so much and oh definitely, but we're so glad it was nothing more at least. xx

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  30. Oh gosh Alex I have only just seen this. Massive love to you and Adam, that must have been so incredibly frightening for you both. x

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    1. Thanks Katie, it was very scary but we're thankful it was nothing worse at least xx

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  31. Oh no so scary. Hope he's okay. Really frightening. Big hugs to your gorgeous family xxxxxx

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  32. Oh how scary for you all! Glad everything is ok now.

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