tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4624303271642739916.post8714410455237975061..comments2024-03-25T22:37:34.963+00:00Comments on Alex Gladwin Blog: Feeling Guilty, No Matter WhatAlex Gladwinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12874517966951432859noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4624303271642739916.post-87531824270906308822016-03-18T16:01:25.339+00:002016-03-18T16:01:25.339+00:00Thank you, that's very true! I guess it'll...Thank you, that's very true! I guess it'll take a little more time for me to get used to not beating myself up about not being able too split myself. I'm working on it, some days are better than others. xAlex Gladwinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12874517966951432859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4624303271642739916.post-52817190501747196582016-03-18T16:00:26.635+00:002016-03-18T16:00:26.635+00:00Thank you! I think it is about embracing the littl...Thank you! I think it is about embracing the little wins - trying to focus on those rather than what we can't get around to! It's a hard one, some days I feel I handle it, other days I let it get to me more. xAlex Gladwinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12874517966951432859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4624303271642739916.post-29824832763143857502016-03-18T15:59:24.363+00:002016-03-18T15:59:24.363+00:00Aw thank you so much for taking the time to leave ...Aw thank you so much for taking the time to leave me this comment. It means a lot to hear it from someone else perspective. You're so right! xAlex Gladwinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12874517966951432859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4624303271642739916.post-73307403541733226352016-03-13T08:01:21.171+00:002016-03-13T08:01:21.171+00:00It does get easier! I have 3 (now 10, 7 & 4) a...It does get easier! I have 3 (now 10, 7 & 4) and it is easier to do things they all like together like swimming, going to the park etc, but they also know how to compromise and take turns for my attention. Having siblings is a great life lesson- you can't have it all your own way! Try to look at it from that point of view and not beat yourself up about not being able to split yourself in two. XxSoniahttp://www.buzymum.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4624303271642739916.post-14907154601803097232016-03-12T08:13:17.151+00:002016-03-12T08:13:17.151+00:00Great post, I nodded along to this, it is definite...Great post, I nodded along to this, it is definitely the one thing I think we all have but that I wish someone would have told me - even if I didn't really get it! I can't help but feel it every day, especially like you say with more than 1 child. We all have to let things go every day and hope that our children remember all the times where we were there. It sounds like you're doing a great job and although the guilt never goes, I try to embrace the little wins xxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07897580462226795062noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4624303271642739916.post-7367953116826553452016-03-11T22:13:40.148+00:002016-03-11T22:13:40.148+00:00I think it's something most mum's have and...I think it's something most mum's have and you have to find a way to deal with it that works for you. There are always going to be times when one of your boys will need you more than the other, whether that is helping them with colouring, a trip to the toilet or a cuddle and each time you have to decide which can wait and which has to be done now. The age gap between my girls is the similar to your boys, but I am ahead of you, with Holly 18 months and Alice 3 1/2 and what does get easier is that Alice now understands a lot more. She understands what it means to wait her turn and that whole phase of needing something right now has passed. If I just let her know when I will do something with her, like colouring, she is ok with that. Now she doesn't nap, we have 2 hours together while Holly is napping and I do these things with her then and she gets that. Just remind yourself when you give them a hug each night, that they love you, you are their world and they will have already forgotten about, whatever it is that you are feeling guilty about that day. xLaura @dearbearandbeanyhttp://www.dearbearandbeany.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4624303271642739916.post-35959717668899400552016-03-11T20:08:15.511+00:002016-03-11T20:08:15.511+00:00You're so right Donna. I really do try and foc...You're so right Donna. I really do try and focus on the things I've actually done during the day rather than what I've not done, generally. I think this is the best way of tackling mum guilt. But it always seems to creep up on me somehow! It's about pushing it out again and re-focusing like you say I think. xAlex Gladwinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12874517966951432859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4624303271642739916.post-1351413394205896312016-03-11T20:05:12.654+00:002016-03-11T20:05:12.654+00:00Thank you so much for this Lucy. I really apprecia...Thank you so much for this Lucy. I really appreciate your comment. You're so right about guilt moving around. But you're also so right to look at it in the sense that things are OK as long as long as the balance is evened out over the week - great advice, thank you. xAlex Gladwinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12874517966951432859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4624303271642739916.post-74556393037839722502016-03-11T17:30:41.788+00:002016-03-11T17:30:41.788+00:00I think the thing with being a parent, is like you...I think the thing with being a parent, is like you say, the guilt never stops... it just kind of moves around. You feel guilty about what has to give one day, and the next day something else gives instead and we feel bad about that. On any one day I know that I will have neglected something, but I figure that as long as I've evened it out over the week that I'm doing okay. I also think that there are different phases with parenthood, and what seems hard now will seem easier in a month or so, not because it actually is any different, but because we get used to things, and because some other new challenge will present itself.<br />However you may feel, you ARE doing a good job Alex. And that shows in how bad you are feeling, but also in how happy your little boys are. They know they are loved, even if you can't always do colouring because other things get in the way. xlucy at dear beautifulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14389965251370657029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4624303271642739916.post-98160617801425612016-03-11T16:24:40.410+00:002016-03-11T16:24:40.410+00:00To be honest, I think you just have to let it go. ...To be honest, I think you just have to let it go. Each day is such a small timeframe in their lives and those moments that bring you guilty feelings are moments that the kids won't remember or even care about. They'll remember all the times you could play with them, the cuddles you gave and the smile you had on your face when you went in to get them in the morning. Get over the guilt and appreciate the things you can do, stop focusing on those you can't. This too shall pass xDonnahttp://whattheredheadsaid.comnoreply@blogger.com